About 30 percent of women report pain during vaginal intercourse, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine which surveyed a subsample of 1, women and men ages 18 and older online. Awareness of painful vaginal sex—sometimes lumped under the term Female Sexual Dysfunction FSD —has grown as more women talk about their experiences and more medical professionals start to listen. Many conditions are associated with FSD, including vulvodynia chronic vulva pain , vestibulodynia chronic pain around the opening of the vagina , and vaginismus cramping and tightness around the opening of the vagina. But they all have one thing in common: vaginal or vulval pain that can make penetrative sex anywhere from mildly uncomfortable to physically impossible. However, you can absolutely still have sex, which we'll get to in a minute. There's no reason to suffer in silence, even if it seems awkward or embarrassing or scary.
Pain During Intercourse or Penetration - Our Bodies Ourselves
The following situations and conditions can contribute to or cause pain during intercourse or other forms of penetration. The first few times you have intercourse or experience vaginal penetration, you may feel a small to moderate amount of pain at the entrance to the vagina. There can be some bleeding or no bleeding at all—both are normal. The reasons for the pain are not always clear, but it is typically temporary. An unstretched hymen vaginal corona has typically been blamed for this pain at first penetration, but new understandings of the hymen suggest otherwise.
I've listened to a lot of women, both straight and queer, talk about sex through the years, and there are, in my experience, two normal reactions to experiencing pain during sex. Note: I can pretty much guarantee that your cervix is not a secret vampire. Both of these are driven by one thing: misinformation. You're probably not going to die, but you still should get it checked out.
When Hettie Mcintyre was 16, she went to the party of an older student she met at a summer school. They were in his hotel room with others when he told everyone to leave, locked the door, and raped her. It was so painful. It felt as if it would never end. That was how Mcintyre had her first kiss and how she lost her virginity—forced and involuntarily.