A lesbian couple who prolonged their engagement in a hope gay marriage would be legalised in Australia have decided they could not wait any longer and held a commitment ceremony in front of family and friends. After eight years together and a month engagement, Christie Blake and Carly Finch, both 27, held a ceremony near their home at Narrabeen lagoon in Sydney's north last month, but are still frustrated their commitment is not recognised legally. Christie Blake pictured left and Carly Finch right prolonged their engagement in a hope gay marriage would be legalised in Australia, but decided they could not wait any longer and held a commitment ceremony. After eight years together and a month engagement, the pair held a ceremony near their home at Narrabeen lagoon in Sydney's north last month. When I proposed to her, I thought it would have been legalised, that was 16 months ago. Then when it went south, our family and friends support it, so we said "lets do it".
Commitment Ceremony Vs. Wedding Ceremony
Commitment Ceremony Vs. Wedding Ceremony | Our Everyday Life
The majority of Americans will marry in their lifetimes, and for many, marriage symbolizes the transition into long-term commitment. However, many Americans cannot legally marry. This article analyzes in-depth interviews with gays and lesbians in long-term partnerships to examine union formation and commitment-making histories. Using a life course perspective that emphasizes historical and biographical contexts, the authors examine how couples conceptualize and form committed relationships despite being denied the right to marry. Although previous studies suggest that commitment ceremonies are a way to form same-sex unions, this study finds that because of their unique social, historical, and biographical relationship to marriage and ceremonies, long-term same-sex couples do not follow normative commitment-making trajectories. Instead, relationships can transition more ambiguously to committed formations without marriage, public ceremony, clear-cut act, or decision. Such an understanding of commitment making outside of marriage has implications for theorizing alternative forms of union making.
What Happens at a Commitment Ceremony?
A commitment ceremony is often very similar to many other kinds of weddings. The difference is that rather than being a legally binding ceremony, it is simply a public affirmation of a couple's commitment to one another. Generally, the couple is a lesbian, gay, or transgender couple, and thus are unable to marry under the law. A commitment ceremony may be religious or secular, formal and traditional or loose and unstructured. However, generally speaking, these are the key elements:.
Rituals and ceremonies are important events in our lives. Among them, the moment we officially proclaim to the world our love to each other as a couple can take the form of either a wedding or a commitment ceremony. The two rituals have many similarities, but also one big difference: the marriage certificate, that legally binding document signed during a wedding ceremony, is non-existent in a commitment celebration. More common among the gay, lesbian and transgender community who cannot marry legally, the commitment ceremony is becoming increasingly popular with heterosexual couples who choose to commit to loved ones without signing a marriage certificate. Both wedding and commitment ceremonies may mean different things to different people.