It doesn't hurt. But it does feel like an alien is probing your butthole. If there is a crazy, sharp pain, something is very wrong. It's more like someone is sticking a Wiffle ball bat where it should not be, and you suddenly feel like you need to poop. Sex acts themselves are never degrading — it's the reasons behind them that make them so. If you like anal sex, there's no reason to be ashamed of it.
If you've never had anal sex you may have a lot of questions about it. It's confusing because, on the one hand, it seems to be a more taboo, less frequently practiced kind of sex, one that requires special knowledge and care. And on the other, if you believe what you see in pornography, anal sex is just like any other kind of sex, no condoms, no mess, no communication required. The truth is somewhere in the middle. Anal sex may still be taboo but that's a social and cultural thing, it isn't anything about the sex itself. People can have anal sex that is as safe, pleasurable and fun as any other kind of sexual activity. And anal sex does require communication, will involve condoms most of the time and it can be a bit messier.
Skip navigation! Story from Sex Tips. So you want to try anal sex, but you're freaked out by the probably inevitable reality of poop. That's totally understandable, it's something that can be present during anal sex , and it's not exactly glamourous.
Anal play, as you likely well know by now, is having its moment. Hell, even Vogue is writing about it, and Harvard is, like, teaching classes about the basics of butt-banging. But we can't all go to Harvard and thank God for that , which means that the type stuff that a lot of curious folks might benefit from isn't readily available. We thought we'd fix that. The fact that doing it in the butt is all over the news is great for those among us who maybe want to try it but maybe haven't tried it, and maybe haven't the foggiest notion of how to bring it up to their partner.