When you're in a relationship, there's nothing more intense than superconnected sex. And, with that goal in mind, the ultimate endeavor is a dual orgasm. But it can be tricky to pull off, so we asked readers what their roadblocks are to peaking together. If you want to set the stage for this erotic experience, read on. We reveal what's standing in your way and how to overcome it. Fifty-eight percent of Cosmo readers who experience roadblocks usually orgasm, but not during intercourse.
This is how many couples actually achieve 'shared orgasms' - and how you can do it
A surprisingly high number of couples get an orgasm at the same time
According to a 4,person survey by the sex toy company Lovehoney , 89 percent of couples have orgasmed at the same time, 37 percent do half the time or more, and the average couple orgasms simultaneously once every three times they're intimate. Those numbers sound absurdly high to you? They did to us too—and sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who teaches an online course about orgasms called Finishing School , thinks they should be way lower. A Lovehoney rep tells us the data were collected through the company's social media accounts and emails to customers, so it's possible the high proportion of sex toy users in the sample biased the results, especially since 95 percent of the women said they found it easier to orgasm with toys. To get more clarity, we asked Marin how attainable simultaneous orgasms really are, how you can achieve them, and whether you even should. Maybe we should start by asking ourselves why we want them so much in the first place.
A shared orgasm, where both partners climax together at the same time, is arguably one of the greatest joys of sex, and yet surprisingly few straight couples manage to achieve this every time they have sex. Having said that, most couples have achieved the holy orgasm grail at some point in their relationship, so we know it is doable. We speak to sex expert Jess Wilde about the secret to achieving simultaneous orgasms:.